Am I just reading this wrong?
Aug. 28th, 2009 11:39 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
silver_sunI like a well written peice of meta, even if ultimately it's POV is not one that I hold. However, and I may be getting this wrong, but how do people read this:
These two men, for neither of them are women (I cannot tell you how much the feminisation of either of them, when it is not a deliberate kink, annoys me!), are realistic and pragmatic to various degrees.
It sounds to me like the writer is saying that women can't be realistic or pragmatic.
The whole idea that there are some character or personality traits that male or female specific annoys me. I've had enough of my RL friends over the years tell me that I don't 'think/act like a woman' Surely the fact that I am A) a woman and B) do think/act like that, mean that women can and do think/act in that way. I hardly think I am unique to the human race.
I mean what's a woman supposed to act or think like? I get the impression some times that people seem to think that unless you like fluffy kittens, painting you nails, and watching rom-coms with a bunch of other women, you're somehow abnormal as a woman.
Me, I'm a geek, I admit it. I play RPG's, and MMRPG online, I'm not fashionable and I can't remember the last time I did my nails (hell my brother owns more make up than me), I do my own repairs on my car and laptop. Fun is going to a real ale pub and talking sci-fi and putting the world to rights, or going to a reenactment event - there's nothing like being at a real battlefield event, the smell of the canon smoke, the drums before the fight and how they go silent as the two sides meet, feeling the weight of history around you, and wanting to put on the best fight display you can, not for you or for the watching public, but for those who really fought there, because they deserve nothing less.
Okay, stopping now this gets longer and more rambling than it already is.
These two men, for neither of them are women (I cannot tell you how much the feminisation of either of them, when it is not a deliberate kink, annoys me!), are realistic and pragmatic to various degrees.
It sounds to me like the writer is saying that women can't be realistic or pragmatic.
The whole idea that there are some character or personality traits that male or female specific annoys me. I've had enough of my RL friends over the years tell me that I don't 'think/act like a woman' Surely the fact that I am A) a woman and B) do think/act like that, mean that women can and do think/act in that way. I hardly think I am unique to the human race.
I mean what's a woman supposed to act or think like? I get the impression some times that people seem to think that unless you like fluffy kittens, painting you nails, and watching rom-coms with a bunch of other women, you're somehow abnormal as a woman.
Me, I'm a geek, I admit it. I play RPG's, and MMRPG online, I'm not fashionable and I can't remember the last time I did my nails (hell my brother owns more make up than me), I do my own repairs on my car and laptop. Fun is going to a real ale pub and talking sci-fi and putting the world to rights, or going to a reenactment event - there's nothing like being at a real battlefield event, the smell of the canon smoke, the drums before the fight and how they go silent as the two sides meet, feeling the weight of history around you, and wanting to put on the best fight display you can, not for you or for the watching public, but for those who really fought there, because they deserve nothing less.
Okay, stopping now this gets longer and more rambling than it already is.
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Date: 2009-08-29 10:58 am (UTC)Growing up, I always preferred playing with cars and hated dolls. I hate romance novels, I like reading S.F. Same with films - I'd rather watch something like 'Pitch Black' than romantic comedies or 'Women's movies'. But despite all that, I also enjoy knitting and cross-stitch. I also have no problem putting flat-packed furniture together by myself, with or without the instruction sheet. I have no interest in fashion, never wear make-up, I don't see the point - it just irritates my eyes.
I don't know why people consider certain personality traits as being gender specific. I am who I am and I refuse to behave in a certain way just because it's expected of me.
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Date: 2009-09-05 04:04 pm (UTC)As a kid my toy of preference was trains or book (Lord of the Rings, Redwall series, the Willard Price books), and if given dolls they never got to have tea parties, they got to be explorers/Indiana Jones wanabees looking for some lost temple in the Amazon and finding dinosaurs along the way.
I know I do some things that some people would call girly like sewing, I make all my medieval reenactment kit myself - but then so do about half the men in society, and I really can't think of most of the guys that do as even remotely girly. I do cook, but I'd say my brother is probably better at it than me, he likes all the fancy technical dishes, where as I tend towards the put it all in a pot add chilli and half the contents of the spice rack for flavour, cook until it looks done.
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Date: 2009-09-06 08:38 am (UTC)I don't think you have to be mumsy to be a good mother. At least your baby will have a mother who will let them be who they are and encourage them to think outside of society's stereotypes. I have a friend who was never interested in children, but in her late 30s wound up with two - and she wouldn't change that for the world. They're both in their late teens now. Ak! I'm letting my advanced years show! All these young people on the net make me feel positively ancient, but I plan to grow old disgacefully since I never actually grew up =D